Episode:17 - Age Is Just a Number (in Bed Too): The Truth About Sex Over 50

Episode:17 - Age Is Just a Number (in Bed Too): The Truth About Sex Over 50

Did you know over half of people between the ages of 75 and 85 are still getting it on, two to three times a month? Yep — sex after 50 is not only happening, it’s thriving. But there’s also a rise in STI rates in this age group — something that isn’t getting talked about enough.

So today, we're breaking the silence.

Whether you're 50, 60, 70+ or have someone in your life who is, this post is here to bust myths, get real about the facts, and give you tips to keep your sex life fun, healthy, and full of pleasure — no matter your age.

Myth #1: Seniors Aren’t Interested in Sex

Totally false. Many folks over 50 say their sex lives are more satisfying now than when they were younger. With more confidence, better communication, and fewer hangups, intimacy often becomes more about connection and joy — and less about performance.

Myth #2: “Senior” Means 50

Let’s be real — 50 is midlife, not “senior citizen.” But it's also the age where things start shifting: hormone levels, libido, and maybe even relationship dynamics. It’s a great time to start thinking about how to keep sex a regular, healthy part of your life — and yes, take advantage of those sweet 55+ discounts while you're at it.

Myth #3: Only Heterosexual Couples Are Having Sex Later in Life

Nope. Love and attraction don’t come with an expiry date, and neither does sexual orientation. In fact, more seniors than ever are coming out and living authentically. Canada led the world in collecting LGBTQIA2S+ data in its census, and 7% of Canadians 65+ now identify as LGBTQIA2S+.

Real Talk: STIs Don’t Discriminate by Age

Between 2005 and 2015, STI rates among those 60+ in Canada increased significantly:

  • Chlamydia: up 142%
  • Gonorrhea: up 87%
  • Syphilis: up 5%

Many older adults are re-entering the dating scene after divorce or widowhood and may not consider using protection after decades of monogamy. But STIs don’t care about your age. So yes — condoms still matter.

Safe Sex Tips for 50+ (Yes, You Still Need Them)

  • Keep Condoms Handy: Bedroom, bathroom, purse, glove box. No shame, just smart.
  • Trim Those Nails: Thin vaginal tissue is more prone to tiny cuts and infections. Keep things clean and neat.
  • Use Lube: Think of it as your new best friend — not a last resort.
  • Talk to Your Doctor: Medications and health changes can affect libido and function. Speak up and advocate for your pleasure.
  • Get Tested: If you're dating or in non-monogamous relationships, don’t skip the regular sexual health checkups.

Building a Thriving Sex Life at Any Age

  • Communicate Openly: Before, during, and after. Talking about likes, dislikes, and comfort levels is essential — especially with a new partner.
  • Focus on Pleasure, Not Performance: Good sex isn’t about checking boxes — it’s about connection and satisfaction.
  • Stretch First (Seriously): Bad hips, knees, or arthritis? A quick stretch (even naked yoga!) can help.
  • Explore Toys & Enhancements: From lubricants to toys, there’s no shame in adding a little spice. In fact, it’s encouraged.

Pro tip: Think of enhancements as the power tools of pleasure. They make the job easier — and more enjoyable.

Final Thoughts

Sex after 50 isn’t just possible — it can be amazing. With a few adjustments, some honest conversations, and a healthy dose of humor, you can keep intimacy on the table well into your golden years.

So whether you're just turning 50 or deep into retirement, remember: good sex doesn’t retire — it evolves.

 

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